Thursday, May 17, 2012

Hop Against Homophobia


Discrimination is wrong. 



My father and mother are fine with it as long as I never talk about it. My friends don't mind at all as long as I never bring it around them. My co-workers pretend I'm not by never engaging me in simple conversation.


As long as they get the watered down version of me they're happy. As long as they don't have to think about who I love they accept me. As long as I don't flaunt my other side everything is peaceful.

For them.

A part of me is dying, fading away to nothing. Hiding who I am and who I love for the benefit of others. Being only half of my true self.

So I love you mom and dad, I need you my friends, I respect you my co-workers.

Let me introduce you to me. I love, need and respect myself also. This is my life, and it is my job to take care of me. I refuse to let half of myself drown while I'm around you anymore. Because even though my one half is terrific...my whole being is phenomenal. Don't worry, I'll show you the way.

It's time to throw a pebble in the pond.


Copyright 2012 by Havan Fellows



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34 comments:

  1. I love that piece by Havan. It's beautiful!! Don't waste prizes on me, save them for readers. This is a great cause. Good luck with the hop.

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  2. Lovely poem. Sara@sarayork.com

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  3. Heartbreaking really but beautiful poem!
    fbmcneal@verizon.net

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  4. Havan that is beautiful.....I love it. I wish everyone could be their whole selves....I want and strive for a world where no matter what your gender or who you love...you are loved and accepted by all.
    allstarjumperstx@yahoo.com

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  5. That is wonderful. Thanks for sharing it.
    musicalfrog@ comcast.net

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  6. This is a really extraordinary piece, being that it is true and hits home for so many of us in the LGBT community! thank you for sharing, this is well written, as all your work is *giggles*
    Good luck with the Hop.
    hkitchera@yahoo.com

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  7. Fracking Brilliant poem.
    Wow. Just wow.
    I love the picture you tied in to the poem as well. I encourage everyone to be themselves as well. Very, very muchly so.

    cherienoel@yahoo.com

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  8. I love this! The very last line is so dramatic and really sums everything up for me, and the picture is telling of only seeing one half of a whole. Phenomenal piece!! Well Done!!

    Kitana_wolff@yahoo.com

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  9. the first time I read this, it made me want to cry...and the second and the third. Beautiful sentiments, beautiful writing.

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  10. Haven That is absolutely beautiful!!
    sugar_n_spice63830@yahoo.com

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  11. Thank you for sharing this.

    musings-of-a-bookworm@hotmail.co.uk

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  12. Thanks for sharing.

    gisu29@gmail.com

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  13. Love should always triumph over hate and I believe it always will!

    Thank you for taking part in the hop :)

    kimberlyFDR@yahoo.com

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  14. Not here for the prizes. I'm sorry you go through what you go through. We're all here doing what we can to make it a little better, though.

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  15. Great post!

    andreagrendahl AT gmail DOT com

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  16. This made my heart hurt. Thank you for sharing.

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  17. That was beautiful and insightful al at the same time. thank youf for participating and sharing.

    normanielsen@bgpond.com.

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  18. That was an awesome poem.

    penumbrareads(at)gmail(dot)com

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  19. Havan, I LOVED what you wrote. I just can't understand why everyone can't just be accepting of anyone who is, to them, perceived as "different". Everyone deserves their own happy ending no matter whom that person may be. Sex, Race, Creed, Color or anything else should not be a factor on whether or not they should/it should be accepted.

    skyla11377(At)AOL(Dot)Com

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  20. That's such a shame. I think that's the worst thing about homophobia, that people feel they have to hide who they are.

    vitajex(at)aol(dot)com

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  21. I showed a bunch of these post to the teens in my family to show them how hurt some "innocent" remarks are to many others. I get so annoyed when my nephew says "you're so gay". ERRRR drove me crazy. I know he didn't mean anything by it but it is so wrong to use that as a saying. I think that these post have helped. Thank you all for sharing with us!
    forettarose@yahoo.com

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  22. Love Love Love it i read it before but i forgot ot leave a comment lol Missy@missyallen.com (thats just so you know it was me)

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  23. Very sad! I think that's probably the way life is for a large number of gay girls and guys. 'Keep it quiet and we can pretend you're normal.' Not good.

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  24. I can personally relate to this. I could have written it myself, ten years ago. The good news -- keep tossing those pebbles. Eventually the people worth keeping in your life will come around. They really will! And the rest will fade away.

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  25. It stinks that we can not just simply be ourselves. We can't sweep people under the rug and pretend they do not exist.
    Yvette
    yratpatrol@aol.com

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  26. I think it is sad that people are so uncomfortable with homosexuality that they would deprive themselves of getting to know who someone really is. Do they really want to be lied to? I would rather know that someone is being true to themself rather than water down who they are to be around me. Very sad.

    geishasmom73 AT yahoo DOT com

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  27. That was a most beautiful piece Havan. So beautiful.
    I am so sad to know that... people cannot be who they are. They really can't. If their own families won't accept who they are... How is the world going to?

    I am just so happy that I came to know the MM world and I am so proud to support all things in the GLBT community, because, even if their own families ignore them, when the entire world is against someone... at least there is that one person or the many people who wont judge or ask question and will simply be on their side. And I hope that is all they will need to survive and be happy. Blood isn't what makes a family. A Family is made up of people who will love you no matter what. And I hope that when somebody is down, that adopted family will simply embrace that person and show them that they are loved. They are wanted and deserve to Love whomever they choose.

    Thank you for being a part of the blog hop.

    Judi
    arella3173_loveless(at)yahoo.com

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  28. Excellent post. Beautifully written... though it should have carried a tissue warning. Actually I think that is the case for many of the posts on this hop.

    Thank you for participating and sharing.


    lmbrownauthor at gmail dot com

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  29. I'm one of those people who like the ripples.

    Keep us posted. We'll help you dry off if you capsize.

    Rosemary

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  30. I feel sorry for you and for them too. I have been lucky to have two parents who have been happy to accept me as I am and this has been really good as I have come to the realization of my situation late in life.

    I feel sorry for you because you cannot live as you really are when it comes to your parents and sorry for them because they can't accept you as you are. BUT and it's a wonderful but, you have a wonderful reaction for it too.

    As for the ripples I now get the feeling that I want to just jump straight in to the pond to make REALLY big waves!!!!!

    flubber2kool@gmail.com

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  31. Wow that poem, Thanks for sharing and thanks for joining the hop!
    red_tigergirl2(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  32. As a parent, it kills me that yours aren't able to accept the whole of you. My daughter first told me she was attracted to other girls before she was 13 and I can't imagine not being a party to her romances as she grows up. I hope that your pebble doesn't stop rocking their boat until they realize what they are missing out on by not knowing their son.

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  33. That was great, I loved it.

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